Women (?) Uh Just women!

Understanding women

It’s probably one of the toughest things for men, understanding women. Yet, it’s also one of the most important. As sons, brothers, husbands and fathers, they have multi faceted roles to play. The task can become much easier were they to know a few basic principles governing women’s emotions, and their behaviour. Here are a few facts…

For one, they are definitely not two-mouthed. Various writings propagate ideas like ‘When a woman says ‘A-B-C’, believe ‘C-B-A’’. However, this is not true. Present day women believe in saying exactly how they feel and think, and, they abide by the same. You don’t have to carry ‘dual-meaning’ dictionaries in your brain. Take every word on face value.

Secondly, show you care. Women are great care-givers, both by nature and by upbringing. However, they need the care back. It touches them as nothing else does. For most women, care defines true love. Add acceptance to that, an ideal ingredient in women’s life, and the situation is a dream-come-true.

Another thing that women live by is their values. They are deeply attached to their roots. One might think that this true even for men. However, psychologists opine that women are more bound to their backgrounds, especially in Indian culture, where tradition demands them to leave parental house after marriage. Respect this integrity.

Encourage. Women love men who have the ‘courage to encourage’. Firstly, it implies that the person is secure himself, and secondly, that they can always back up on him. Before any man gets close to a woman, be it for any relationship, encouragement has to be the keyword. However, don’t let yourself assume that they are seeking support; in all likelihood, women will reciprocate with double the encouragement, though in ways different than yours.

Women love being time efficient. Along with that, they love receiving the deserved amount of time from people close to them. By pre-disposition, women are more relationship oriented, so when they express a desire for time, try to provide that. When they demand a more efficient time management, try to practice it. Chances are high that you’ll reap sweet fruits.

21st century women have a close nurturing friend circle. This needs to be respected. A lady needs girlfriends as much as a man needs guy friends. You might find the group funny because of the variety therein, all the same, be patient and receptive. Your lady will love you for being accepting towards her friends. Afterall, you would appreciate the same from her, however crazy some of your guy friends might be.

Ladies today need a sense of control. Home or office, work or recreation, they need to have sense of predictability. Don’t misinterpret this. The whim, if it maybe so considered, can pretty well be humoured. It usually results in the advantage of the rest. Moreover, hidden beneath the sense of control is a deep layer of care.
Aesthetics play an important role in a female’s life. Be it considering herself, or the world around her, she needs to feel pleasant about it. Be ready to spend on this, both energy and money. It helps the people around in two ways; firstly, the lady is happy, and secondly, environment uplifts everybody’s mood, indeed.

The fairer sex is sensitively strong, implying that it’ll get scared of a cockroach, but, won’t tremble if a calamity sets in. It’s just the way it is. Know it, learn it, and remember it. Females are born empowered, and in their heart of hearts, they know it better than anyone else. Usually, the fact is not exploited, and it’s better not, for the benefit of both the sexes. To make complex things simple, keep it simple.

Communication is something very valuable to women’s heart. Most of them live by it. Let them. Communication solves half the world’s problems, so let them talk. Today, they are not as much of chatter boxes as they used to be. They realize how important it is to talk, so, talk. Share with your sister, listen to your mother; talk to your love, walk with your grandmom… you’ll become a better person.

All said and done, a female is a ‘janani’, a birth giver. She gives birth, loves, cares, breeds, grooms and cares. So, should be her atmosphere – congenial to her nurturance. While understanding her is not an easy task, if once accomplished, reaps great advantages. She has her strengths and weaknesses, her perfections and imperfections… wholesome acceptance of these by men can bring them back, double the amount of love and affection.