The wall in my room was chipping, white plaster cover coming off and the paint behind showing. I did these sheets to cover it.
Velapanti sharing!
Moments...
Boat
Monday, September 6, 2010
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Tree Tale
The tree here wass lying to dry in our garden, and being the unemployed and free soul that I amm, I decided to paint it up for decorativwe purposes. Aided by Sanyam, my younger sibling, this was done over a period of two weeks; putting in laborious hours and attempts at co-operation.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
A Stupid Article (written ages back)
Quick Fix Thy Confidence
“Damini* does everything as if perfect”, Ritu*, a first year student of Psychology Honours, Delhi University, often thought to herself. Damini had mastered an essential art of success – confidence. Hence, her demeanour spoke volumes, and gained applause and gained applause wherever she went. While her peers looked upto her, her teachers backed upon her for delegating. “She is exactly like I would want to be. I wish I had the formula…” Ritu would further dwell.
Given a scientific definition, ‘Confidence’ means a mental process that arises from considering if a person or thing is capable of something. Simply put, it means believing in yourself. It is made up of five components : 'social confidence', 'physical presence', 'stage presence', 'status confidence' and 'peer independence'. As a psychological quality, confidence is related to, but distinct from, self esteem.
Here are a few tips on gaining confidence, be it for entering a long-dreamt-of-job, or for dealing articulately with your mother in law…
Feel Confident
“As is our confidence, so is our capacity”, said William Hazlitt, the reputed humanistic writer. Behave as if you are already the person of your dreams. It doesn’t mean you exude over-confidence; that can have multi repercussions, but, believe that you CAN BECOME what you want to, and behave accordingly.
Firstly, it’ll make people look up to you positively. Secondly, you’ll feel good about yourself and put better efforts into doing everything; thus producing better results. We often get to hear of performers who made errors on stage, but got away with it as their confidence overshadowed the lacunae.
Be Integrated
“Honesty is the best virtue” the old adage holds truth even today. An integrated individual doesn’t need to fear anything. Thus, confidence begins to set in on its own. On the other hand, even the smallest lie produces fear evoking chemicals in the brain. This can cause choking. Choking refers to losing confidence, especially self-confidence, just at the moment when it is needed most e.g. in sports.Be honest -to yourself, to others, and to your work. It’ll make you strong.
Further, have thorough knowledge of your work. “This wisdom will uplift your morale”, says Dr. Karan, Ph.d in Education, Panjab University. When you know something in-depth, you also know that your opinion in that matter will stand unchallenged. Hence, it produces confidence.
Feel Positive
“Be positive. Confidence can get you where you want to go, and getting there is a daily process. It’s so much easier when you feel good about yourself, your abilities and talents”, remarked Donald Trump, the famous Billionaire Real Estate Developer, USA
In other words, love yourself, and love life. When you love something, you give it your best, hence enhancing its positive worth.
Negative thoughts suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can. As said by Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right.”
Be Principled
Stick to your principles, and believe in your ideas. Further, have the courage to stand up for what you believe is correct. Whether it is for supporting a cause or going in the direction of your objectives, be firm on your morals. This provides with an identity and a sense of belonging, especially when people join in your mission.
“A clear vision, backed by definite plans, gives you a tremendous feeling of confidence and personal power”, says Brian Tracy, motivational coach and author. Have Bull’s Eye, confidence will itself come looking for you!
Feel Supported
Have a close group of friends. Nurture the relationships. It’ll give you a firm footing, both in times of happiness and distress. Knowing that there are people you can back upon keeps you uplifted. These bonds stay within you, wherever you go; thus making you feel confident.
Further, eveyrbody has limitations. When you feel accepted despite yourlimitations, you learn to forgive yourself; further elevating the levels of confidence. Says John Edmond, the famous musician, ‘Make sure you smile when you meet people”. He explains that this spreads warmth, a dramatic affect on others and on one’s self confidence.
Be Good
Eat good, dress good, and live good. It’ll reflect in your persona, thus making you feel self-sure. Dress as smartly and as classily as you can. It feels great when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. Even if it’s Sunday, put on nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! Hairdressers often say, "Everyday is show time", when it comes to self confidence it holds tremendous truth.
Quick Fix Tips
1. Focus on what you love. If you really enjoy something you will have the persistence and patients to work at it. Confidence often comes with experience and practice.
2. Take it step by step. Do all the groundwork required, rather then thinking you have to have everything immediately. Each step you complete will give you more clarity and ideas on how you can move closer to your goal. This instils confidence.
5. Invest in yourself. If you want to do something, be willing to invest the time, money and resources required for your success. Assured investments bring home success.
6. Release your doubt. Everybody has doubts at some time in their lives. Instead of putting all your energy into doubts and thinking why something will not work, place your energy on how it can work. This will allow your imagination to take flight. Creative thinking provides with confidence.
7. There are no failures just feedback. If you do something which does not work, it does not mean that you have failed. Make new choices and you will get a different result. It’ll build up inner confidence.
Here are some situational tips…
- For exams revise smartly and in plenty of time
- For parties, know the dress code and wear something that makes you feel fabulous
- Have a few questions to ask new people you meet (what do you do, have you read ...)
- Smile, as people gravitate towards happy looking people
- Say something nice to yourself three times every morning
- Whenever talking to someone, look in the eye
- Stand or sit correctly, as it sends out a positive message to the world, and in turn, back to you
We often envy people who have little fear of the unknown, are able to stand up for what they believe in, and have the courage to risk embarrassment (for instance, by giving a presentation to a large group of people). These people, like Damini, have mastered the art of confidence. However, confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it, and those with it may succeed because they have it, rather than because of an innate ability.
Ritu found her confidence mantra by excelling in college debate society. It gave her an edge over the others, and she felt assured of herself in all situations. Develop your unique mantra like her, and get going. “With confidence, you can reach truly amazing heights; and without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments go beyond your grasp”, said Jim Loehr, the world-renowned performance psychologist
Finally, as is suggested by the meaning itself, have faith – on yourself, on others, and on Cosmos. The first one is most important as only the person who has faith in himself is able to be faithful to others. The same is suggested by Erich Fromm, philosopher writer, in all his writings.
“Damini* does everything as if perfect”, Ritu*, a first year student of Psychology Honours, Delhi University, often thought to herself. Damini had mastered an essential art of success – confidence. Hence, her demeanour spoke volumes, and gained applause and gained applause wherever she went. While her peers looked upto her, her teachers backed upon her for delegating. “She is exactly like I would want to be. I wish I had the formula…” Ritu would further dwell.
Given a scientific definition, ‘Confidence’ means a mental process that arises from considering if a person or thing is capable of something. Simply put, it means believing in yourself. It is made up of five components : 'social confidence', 'physical presence', 'stage presence', 'status confidence' and 'peer independence'. As a psychological quality, confidence is related to, but distinct from, self esteem.
Here are a few tips on gaining confidence, be it for entering a long-dreamt-of-job, or for dealing articulately with your mother in law…
Feel Confident
“As is our confidence, so is our capacity”, said William Hazlitt, the reputed humanistic writer. Behave as if you are already the person of your dreams. It doesn’t mean you exude over-confidence; that can have multi repercussions, but, believe that you CAN BECOME what you want to, and behave accordingly.
Firstly, it’ll make people look up to you positively. Secondly, you’ll feel good about yourself and put better efforts into doing everything; thus producing better results. We often get to hear of performers who made errors on stage, but got away with it as their confidence overshadowed the lacunae.
Be Integrated
“Honesty is the best virtue” the old adage holds truth even today. An integrated individual doesn’t need to fear anything. Thus, confidence begins to set in on its own. On the other hand, even the smallest lie produces fear evoking chemicals in the brain. This can cause choking. Choking refers to losing confidence, especially self-confidence, just at the moment when it is needed most e.g. in sports.Be honest -to yourself, to others, and to your work. It’ll make you strong.
Further, have thorough knowledge of your work. “This wisdom will uplift your morale”, says Dr. Karan, Ph.d in Education, Panjab University. When you know something in-depth, you also know that your opinion in that matter will stand unchallenged. Hence, it produces confidence.
Feel Positive
“Be positive. Confidence can get you where you want to go, and getting there is a daily process. It’s so much easier when you feel good about yourself, your abilities and talents”, remarked Donald Trump, the famous Billionaire Real Estate Developer, USA
In other words, love yourself, and love life. When you love something, you give it your best, hence enhancing its positive worth.
Negative thoughts suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can. As said by Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company, “If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can't, you're right.”
Be Principled
Stick to your principles, and believe in your ideas. Further, have the courage to stand up for what you believe is correct. Whether it is for supporting a cause or going in the direction of your objectives, be firm on your morals. This provides with an identity and a sense of belonging, especially when people join in your mission.
“A clear vision, backed by definite plans, gives you a tremendous feeling of confidence and personal power”, says Brian Tracy, motivational coach and author. Have Bull’s Eye, confidence will itself come looking for you!
Feel Supported
Have a close group of friends. Nurture the relationships. It’ll give you a firm footing, both in times of happiness and distress. Knowing that there are people you can back upon keeps you uplifted. These bonds stay within you, wherever you go; thus making you feel confident.
Further, eveyrbody has limitations. When you feel accepted despite yourlimitations, you learn to forgive yourself; further elevating the levels of confidence. Says John Edmond, the famous musician, ‘Make sure you smile when you meet people”. He explains that this spreads warmth, a dramatic affect on others and on one’s self confidence.
Be Good
Eat good, dress good, and live good. It’ll reflect in your persona, thus making you feel self-sure. Dress as smartly and as classily as you can. It feels great when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. Even if it’s Sunday, put on nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! Hairdressers often say, "Everyday is show time", when it comes to self confidence it holds tremendous truth.
Quick Fix Tips
1. Focus on what you love. If you really enjoy something you will have the persistence and patients to work at it. Confidence often comes with experience and practice.
2. Take it step by step. Do all the groundwork required, rather then thinking you have to have everything immediately. Each step you complete will give you more clarity and ideas on how you can move closer to your goal. This instils confidence.
5. Invest in yourself. If you want to do something, be willing to invest the time, money and resources required for your success. Assured investments bring home success.
6. Release your doubt. Everybody has doubts at some time in their lives. Instead of putting all your energy into doubts and thinking why something will not work, place your energy on how it can work. This will allow your imagination to take flight. Creative thinking provides with confidence.
7. There are no failures just feedback. If you do something which does not work, it does not mean that you have failed. Make new choices and you will get a different result. It’ll build up inner confidence.
Here are some situational tips…
- For exams revise smartly and in plenty of time
- For parties, know the dress code and wear something that makes you feel fabulous
- Have a few questions to ask new people you meet (what do you do, have you read ...)
- Smile, as people gravitate towards happy looking people
- Say something nice to yourself three times every morning
- Whenever talking to someone, look in the eye
- Stand or sit correctly, as it sends out a positive message to the world, and in turn, back to you
We often envy people who have little fear of the unknown, are able to stand up for what they believe in, and have the courage to risk embarrassment (for instance, by giving a presentation to a large group of people). These people, like Damini, have mastered the art of confidence. However, confidence can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, as those without it may fail or not try because they lack it, and those with it may succeed because they have it, rather than because of an innate ability.
Ritu found her confidence mantra by excelling in college debate society. It gave her an edge over the others, and she felt assured of herself in all situations. Develop your unique mantra like her, and get going. “With confidence, you can reach truly amazing heights; and without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments go beyond your grasp”, said Jim Loehr, the world-renowned performance psychologist
Finally, as is suggested by the meaning itself, have faith – on yourself, on others, and on Cosmos. The first one is most important as only the person who has faith in himself is able to be faithful to others. The same is suggested by Erich Fromm, philosopher writer, in all his writings.
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Hair Cut
There is something very painful whenever go for hair cut. While I have heard the same from one my cousins, too; why does that happen?
Today, I wasn't willing, but, oh, well; one has to go with the flow... I went for a hair cut. It's not that I love long hair, either...
Today, I wasn't willing, but, oh, well; one has to go with the flow... I went for a hair cut. It's not that I love long hair, either...
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Mantaining Relationships
Being in a romantic relationship is life’s most beautiful experiences. However, the benefits don’t come across as easily as they might have in the previous century. In the fast paced world of today, with options like e-dating and the liberty given by parents, youth is easily taking to being quickly involved. While there are abundant advantages, the downside of being involved before one is responsible enough, and, the plethora of options available for entertainment; boredom and breakups are natural. However, while the parents DO realize the aftermath of everything happening in their kids’ lives, it’s not easy managing the scene. Following are some tips : both for parents and th X generation alike…
1. Set Priorities : For any human being, managing more than three main areas of life is an unfair deal. Know your reality, and set goals. E.g. Where do you see yourself two years from now. Are you more inclined on settling down, or is providing for your family a priority…
Also, if your background doesn’t allow mixing with the opposite sex, stay responsible. Don’t let yourself get carried away with rebellious feeling; invest emotions only when you truly know you want it.
2. Commit : Once in a relationship, commit a bit of yoursef to it. Future is always unknown; however, to give every situation your best is your duty. Let the rest work on its own. Spend time together, respect each other and let the flame of friendship (atleast!) never die out.
3. Enjoy : Be cheerful and have fun while you date. Same holds for marriages. Humans have a basic need to feel happiness… Seeing your better half happy is as good as being happy. Never give him/her a feeling that you dislike him/her. Even if you genuinely need to walk out of a relationship, politeness and acceptance should be the mantra. While these suggetions sound idealistic, following them usually easens the knots’ undoing.
4. Sharing : Be careful when you share. Unfolding your life stories is not desirable. Most people are willing to see you for your present, afterall everyone has had a history. Reveal as much as you deem respect-worthy. Don’t lie (!), but be mindful. Additionally, talk about friends, but, again, be discreet.
5. Stay active : This holds value throughout your life… Not just for being healthily committed. Deveop hobbies, work on yourself and stay open to learning. The purpose of education itself is to open our minds to learning. Stay that way. Being occupied is half the battle won… Granted you are enjoying the process. Afterall no one can deny that an empy mind serves as devil’s workshop.
1. Set Priorities : For any human being, managing more than three main areas of life is an unfair deal. Know your reality, and set goals. E.g. Where do you see yourself two years from now. Are you more inclined on settling down, or is providing for your family a priority…
Also, if your background doesn’t allow mixing with the opposite sex, stay responsible. Don’t let yourself get carried away with rebellious feeling; invest emotions only when you truly know you want it.
2. Commit : Once in a relationship, commit a bit of yoursef to it. Future is always unknown; however, to give every situation your best is your duty. Let the rest work on its own. Spend time together, respect each other and let the flame of friendship (atleast!) never die out.
3. Enjoy : Be cheerful and have fun while you date. Same holds for marriages. Humans have a basic need to feel happiness… Seeing your better half happy is as good as being happy. Never give him/her a feeling that you dislike him/her. Even if you genuinely need to walk out of a relationship, politeness and acceptance should be the mantra. While these suggetions sound idealistic, following them usually easens the knots’ undoing.
4. Sharing : Be careful when you share. Unfolding your life stories is not desirable. Most people are willing to see you for your present, afterall everyone has had a history. Reveal as much as you deem respect-worthy. Don’t lie (!), but be mindful. Additionally, talk about friends, but, again, be discreet.
5. Stay active : This holds value throughout your life… Not just for being healthily committed. Deveop hobbies, work on yourself and stay open to learning. The purpose of education itself is to open our minds to learning. Stay that way. Being occupied is half the battle won… Granted you are enjoying the process. Afterall no one can deny that an empy mind serves as devil’s workshop.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Moments...
Sometimes a little moment leaves you astonished; surprised and elated. Just during routine.
I was putting the flowers in my verandah symmetrically, and lo and behold, I came across a little boat decorated with a feather. Water : crystal-clear water shone inside. Obviously my first thought was that our thoughtful and creative maid – Asha – did it. Later investigation brought to light – Asha had only stuck the feather there. Water had been dripping from roof and co-incidentally collected directly in the boat.
I was putting the flowers in my verandah symmetrically, and lo and behold, I came across a little boat decorated with a feather. Water : crystal-clear water shone inside. Obviously my first thought was that our thoughtful and creative maid – Asha – did it. Later investigation brought to light – Asha had only stuck the feather there. Water had been dripping from roof and co-incidentally collected directly in the boat.
Saturday, July 3, 2010
sci fi mystery thriller:Donnie Darko
Donnie Darko
Review number 7
As a psychology enthusiast, my first reactions to the movie were angst, awe and agreement. Similar are my final views… Please bear while I elaborate ;)
The movie is both a psychology and a scientific thriller. Donnie is an adolescent facing psychosis (departure from reality), and the movie builds around his issues. I felt anger because the movie brought to my notice, something I rarely realize otherwise – Certain evils and unhealthy mechanisms are so deeply rooted in every society, and, even every family, that uprooting them is next to impossible. Depressing school course (e.g. Stories that depict sadism), teachers’ rigidity, and, futile attempts of parents to reach out to their kids… It’s like fallbacks hitting you on face throughout the watch.
However, if one has the capacity to read between the lines, one can find both hope and solution(s). E.g. Drew Barrymore, the unconventional teacher, too, has unsolved stuff, issues plaguing her almost 24/7; yet, it’s her sense of direction and self-management that keeps her going.
I felt awe at the complexity of every character, and, the nature of hallucinations. It’s interesting the way Donnie’s genius is weaving a world different from reality, yet, falls back on theories of time-travel and human anatomy. In his young age!
I agree wherever the movie writer leaves problems as they are. An adolescent, IS, the loneliest of all. The protagonist weeps when his therapist mentions his loneliness, he is both guilty and comfortable about stopping his medication; feels a connection with the seemingly crazy old lady next door…
A teacher, just on her own; CANNOT bring about huge changes. Barrymore manages to get Donnie some company intuitively during the class… She shares her views with clarity… Yet… gets labelled as a failure.
No psychologist; and, no hypnotherapy can produce magical cures.
I’m still in dark regarding my understanding of what transpired between Donnie and his imagined (?) girlfriends. Still in dark if the producer means us to look deeper and realize that Donnie just knew everything… before time…
Review number 7
As a psychology enthusiast, my first reactions to the movie were angst, awe and agreement. Similar are my final views… Please bear while I elaborate ;)
The movie is both a psychology and a scientific thriller. Donnie is an adolescent facing psychosis (departure from reality), and the movie builds around his issues. I felt anger because the movie brought to my notice, something I rarely realize otherwise – Certain evils and unhealthy mechanisms are so deeply rooted in every society, and, even every family, that uprooting them is next to impossible. Depressing school course (e.g. Stories that depict sadism), teachers’ rigidity, and, futile attempts of parents to reach out to their kids… It’s like fallbacks hitting you on face throughout the watch.
However, if one has the capacity to read between the lines, one can find both hope and solution(s). E.g. Drew Barrymore, the unconventional teacher, too, has unsolved stuff, issues plaguing her almost 24/7; yet, it’s her sense of direction and self-management that keeps her going.
I felt awe at the complexity of every character, and, the nature of hallucinations. It’s interesting the way Donnie’s genius is weaving a world different from reality, yet, falls back on theories of time-travel and human anatomy. In his young age!
I agree wherever the movie writer leaves problems as they are. An adolescent, IS, the loneliest of all. The protagonist weeps when his therapist mentions his loneliness, he is both guilty and comfortable about stopping his medication; feels a connection with the seemingly crazy old lady next door…
A teacher, just on her own; CANNOT bring about huge changes. Barrymore manages to get Donnie some company intuitively during the class… She shares her views with clarity… Yet… gets labelled as a failure.
No psychologist; and, no hypnotherapy can produce magical cures.
I’m still in dark regarding my understanding of what transpired between Donnie and his imagined (?) girlfriends. Still in dark if the producer means us to look deeper and realize that Donnie just knew everything… before time…
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